Reflections on the eve of another wedding anniversary
Our 27th wedding anniversary is tomorrow and I find myself amazed that so much time has gone by since I married my sweet husband. Equally amazing are the trials we have seen, the laughs we have shared and the lessons we have learned in our life together. Don’t fault me for saying “our life together” when referring to our marriage. Yes, he has his life and I have mine, and then we have a life together.
Often through the years when I’ve been too stressed-out to get to sleep, I’ve been known to ask for a bedtime story. And Jeff would begin some wonderful tale about a trip we would take to a magical place where everything was perfect, stress-free and we could enjoy just being together with no worries about time or intrusions. I could picture us on a scenic beach somewhere, walking off into the sunset. Walking with him into Forever.
Over the years we have endured heartaches and losses that I never imagined. From December 1997 to June 2001, we lost my Mama and both Jeff’s parents. Pop and Mom Cutshaw died less than 11 months apart. Other close relatives have died and our hearts have been broken in new places with every passing. We’ve lost coworkers and friends along the way. We’ve cried a lot, questioned a lot. I don’t know how many answers we have found.
We’ve also laughed a lot. My husband is the funniest human being I have ever met and, even after all these years together, the man can still make me laugh so hard I cry, or pee my pants, or both! He still has the ability to surprise me with both his humor and the depth of his soul. He is a decent, compassionate person who hates seeing people or animals mistreated. He also has the ability to see and accept life as it is, rather than complaining about how it isn’t. I’d like to be more like him when I grow up.
I feel blessed and grateful to share my life with him. I believe my life has been much richer and more fulfilling with him in it than it ever could have been without him. I don’t say he completes me, because I don’t think one person can do that for another. What he does do is help me to be the best I can be, and I like how I feel when I am with him.